I AM ME!
Hey Everyone,
My name is Ayden Dore and I am a 39 year old trans male. I lived throughout different parts of Canada but a good majority of my life was spent in Timmins, Ontario.
I have known for the last 27 years that I am a trans male, but growing in my time coming out as trans was not something that was as freely accepted as today. I came out as being part of the gay community to my family and close friends when I was 20 years old. Eventually, I came out to everybody else when I was 23 years old. Unfortunately, my coming out experience wasn’t pleasant at all. Shortly, after I came out I was jumped by a group of females; which resulted in having some of my ribs broken. This event alone made me too afraid to come out as trans at that point in time. To be honest, I wasn’t sure if I was ever going to be able to come out at all.
I was fortunate enough to meet my wife at the age of 25 years old; however, I really thought that coming out as trans wasn’t an option anymore. My wife identifies as a gay female, and I didn’t want to risk losing my relationship. At the ending of the summer of 2018 my depression became too strong and I considered ending my own life. At that moment in time I realized just how precious life truly is and no relationship may it be family, friend or spouse is worth losing my life over. So I came out to my wife shortly thereafter. Originally, her reaction wasn’t the greatest and really I can’t blame her in a sense. I can only imagine how she must have felt at the time, being told by her wife of 12 years that she is actually a he who identifies as a trans male. Plus, being told that he is planning on going through with a full transition. Thankfully, she decided to stand by my side through the transitioning process and be as supportive as she can be.
I did come out to everyone else a couple of months later. Even though I lost some relationships along the way if felt amazing to finally be the real me. There is nothing more important in life then your own true happiness, because at the end of the day the only person who is guaranteed to be there is you, yourself. Everyday, when you wake up it’s your own reflection you will see looking back at you. Everyone else can get up and walk away if they choose to.
There’s a quote by Coco Channel that I love “Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” So accept your own inner beauty and don’t be afraid to be yourself, because life is too short to be taken for granted.
Ayden
